Saturday, June 17, 2006

Judgement

Judgement is one of those words nobody wants to own. "Well, I’m not
judging you, but …"
So often, we want another person to know they are wrong, but we
don’t want to acknowledge we are judging him or her.It’s as if we
instinctively know that to have the words ‘judgmental’ or ‘judging attitude’
attached to us won’t show us off in a good light either. Basically it's
because people who judge presume to put themselves in the place of God.
Many people devise ways to put other people ‘in the wrong’ while
seeming to be virtuous ourselves. My grade school teacher use to
say, "When you point the finger at someone else, there are three
more pointing back at you". That is so true. God knows I am not
perfect, and would never claim to be. I just don't know where some
people get off being so judgemental by trying to call other people out.
I know that in life, no one can avoid being judged. But there is
definatly a difference between
good judgement and bad judgement. There will be times in life
where we have to judge. But instead of always judging others and
pointing the fingure, we should instead judge ourselves and make
sure that WE are living right and following the right path.









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Monday, June 12, 2006

What's Happening To Our Youth?

Car kills woman sitting on her sofa - Two juveniles appear in court

The two boys accused of crashing a car into a Hampton home
Saturday appeared in court Monday.
The 14-year-old faces charges of felony murder, grand larceny,

felony hit and run, reckless driving and no operators license.
The 12-year-old is being held on charges of felony murder and
grand larceny.
Under Virginia law the 14-year-old can be tried as an adult, police

just have to prove they have enough evidence to uphold the murder charge.
Both boys will be back in court later this month.
Saturday, the two teens are accused of stealing a black Jeep Cherokee

from the parking lot of a nearby convenience store. Police say the keys
were left in the ignition.
Michelle Hart was sitting on her sofa watching TV when the boys are said

to have crashed the Jeep into her living room. Hart was pinned under the car,
and pronounced dead by medics.
Hart's husband had left a few minutes before to run an errand, and their two

girls were upstairs playing.
Hart's husband is in the Navy, and his orders were up in August. The

couple was hoping to return to Jacksonville, FL where she is from and her
family lives.
Michelle would have celebrated her 34th birthday and her

wedding anniversary at the end of this month.
The Hart family had lived in Hampton for a year.




I don't know what is happening to our youth today. When
I was growing up, 12 and 14 was still considered babies.
Now, 12 and 14 year old kids are stealing cars, shooting each
other, doing drugs...yuou name it and they are doing it.
Where are the parents? I know that parents can't watch
their children 24 hours a day, but someone must be responsible
for this bad behavior.
I know it sound cliche, but I really don't know what this world
is coming to.





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Tuesday, June 06, 2006

AIDS TURNS 25

BOOKER RISING COMMENTARY: AIDS Turns 25
Today is the 25th anniversary of the first documented case on June 5, 1981. Since that time, HIV/AIDS has spread into a epidemic and claimed more than 25 million lives. About 40 million people are now living with the disease. Last week, news reports discussed how India - the world's second most populous country - surpassed South Africa as the country with the largest number of HIV/AIDS infections. However, sub-Saharan Africa continues to have the highest per capita rates.Of course, there are the inevitable arguments that governments and churches are not doing enough to stem the epidemic. However, government cannot legislate morality. The bottom line is that then, as in 1981, HIV/AIDS remains mostly (note: not entirely) a disease of bad lifestyle choices: while it is often spread from mother to child during pregnancy, the disease is mainly spread because of (1) unprotected, often promiscuous sex; and (2) intravenous drug use. Until this fact is acknowledged and thoroughly incorporated into societies, then rates will continue to rise or remain stagnant in various nations. When men are resorting to raping young girls, believing that it will "cure" them of HIV/AIDS (as happens in many sub-Saharan countries), then we have a ways to go to get the message out.In the United States, many AIDS activists still blame President Ronald Reagan for not saving them from themselves....as though government should be big daddy and monitor what they should have been doing on their own by being more discriminate in selecting sexual partners. And homophobia is a weak explanation, given that while gay and bisexual men are a high-risk group, the lowest-risk group - lesbians - is also a gay group. Why the differences in AIDS rates, when both are gay groups? Answer: in large part due to dramatically different lifestyle choices, especially on the promiscuity front. This is also a point to make, when some evangelical Christians start talking nonsense that AIDS is punishment to gays for their behavior (if so, then why did God overlook the gay women....whose HIV/AIDS rates are lower than that of heterosexual men and women)?And HIV/AIDS is taking more of a toll in Black America, with rates for women (who are catching it through unprotected sex, often with gay or bisexual men on the "down low") particularly up. This has led to many folks charging that black churches aren't doing enough to address the epidemic. I agree, but for different reasons. As a deist, I very rarely attend church. When I do go, I have noticed that preachers tiptoe around railing against promiscuity....lest it alienate much of the congregation (which features more than enough single moms and their out-of-wedlock kids). I have yet to hear a preacher go all out on the issue, with no qualifications or light touch. Monogamy needs to be promoted much more, as promiscuous sex is harming many blacks on several fronts (HIV/AIDS, out-of-wedlock births and fatherlessness, etc.) with particular impact on black women. And while I don't expect a church to promote it...strap on that condom or use a dental dam when you do have sex.





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Sunday, June 04, 2006

Happy Birthday Travis

Today was my son's 6th birthday. Birthdays and holidays are always bitter sweat. It was just he and I today. All of his cousins live out of state, but I bought a cake, that I'll have to eat it. He did enjoy the ice cream and balloons. I try to imagine what it would be like to see him ripping open his presents and blowing out candles. But we made the best of it today. We went to the park and I sat in a swing, put him my lap, and we swung for about an hour. Then I put him back in his wheelchair and I walked through the park. It has an oceanview and it was such a nice day. I think next year he and I will go on vacation for his birthday. Maybe to the beach, just the two of us.
Even though it gets hard sometimes, he is my little ray of light.










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Friday, June 02, 2006

Happiness

There is a quote in a book that I read once that reads: "truly happy women drive some men and almost every other woman absolutely crazy." I find that to be very true. We cannot decide if we love or hate someone who is happy. Some people are drawn to them, some people resent them and some just cling to them hoping that happiness really is contagious. There is nothing I hate more than the Mary Poppins type when I am having a bad day. Personally, I think that people who walk around happy ALL the time are fake. On everyone's life, a little rain must fall. It's ok to admit that you are having a bad day. It's ok to admit that someone has angered you. I feel horrible admitting it but there is a calm satisfaction in knowing that other people are struggling just as much as I am sometimes. We all struggle at times and that is ok. Now, I am not advocating a permanent state of depression either. That's the opposite end of the spectrum. People who are always down in the dumps, always complain, and are forever the victim...that's another post.
People should allow themselves to feel whatever it is that they are feeling. You don't have to put up a front for the rest of the world as though everything is coming up roses when it's actually not. I believe that happiness is a choice, and that positive thoughts bring forth positive results, but at the same time, when it's not genuine people can see right through it.
Be real!


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